Monday, February 8, 2010

Business of being born

We watched Ricki Lake's documentary 'The business of being born' last night. It was very funny and somewhat scary to watch my lovely pregnant wife covering her eyes and declaring some of the deliveries to be just how does she think Bubala is going to get out of his temporary cozy little home?!

I found it to be really interesting and a little worrying. The amount of interventions scare me and it seems that it's a slippery slope. Once they start you on one drug, it's not long before another is recommended, then another. Before you know it you're being wheeled down for a c-section. I know that J and I have different ideas about what we are comfortable with. When my time comes I would totally consider a home birth with a midwife - minimal intervention in a more private, personal setting. The thought of it totally freaks her out, but i have a few years to keep working on that one ;-) She on the other hand has only a few more months to work out what she wants!

Last week we were at the midwives for our 24 week visit. It feels so great to have past that viable mark. J is doing so well and feeling great. Baby measures just right for his gestation and i love listening to his heartbeat. J has been using the stethoscope at work to check up on him, but i only get to hear him there. We always have to book visits in advance to be sure we get the appointments that work for us and we just started booking them every 2 weeks. Next week we hit the 3rd trimester! Sometimes it feels like the pregnancy lasts forever, but then when i think about being 2/3rds done already it seems to be flying by!

While we were at the midwives we signed up for the child birthing classes that they offer. We start at the end of the month and they run for 5 weeks. The final class includes a tour of the hospital, so that will be good. I'm also hoping that we'll make some friends that are due the same time as us. I already know that we're the only same sex couple on the midwives books, so we know we'll be the only ones representing.

We (or i should probably admit that it's me) are a little too organised when it comes to getting ready for the baby. We have his crib up and i just put together his dresser and it's already filled with clothes. Seriously we have more newborn clothes than he will probably ever wear! Or we won't have to worry about laundry in the first week at least :-) It looks like we are going to have 2 baby showers and i'm putting the word out that we don't want clothes - we'd love books or something from our registry. But i know most people can't resist buying cute little outfits!

The family i work for are heading back to Florida tomorrow and i get to stay home and be the housewife for a week. I can't wait to spend time at home and relax. Looks like we might get a snow day on Wednesday so J may be home for the day too. Yay!!!


  1. I recently came across your blog and have been reading along. I thought I would leave my first comment. I don't know what to say except that I have enjoyed reading. Nice blog. I will keep visiting this blog very often.


  2. Yeah, it was quite a movie wasn't it? We watched it and just shook our heads. It has taken a little outside help, a little compromising and a lot of time but we're both on board for a home birth, provided we find a midwife we both trust. Good Luck!

    This is my first visit to your blog, Congrats on the pregnancy, great to see a fellow nanny AND a woman who loves women [or I guess, another woman]. Haven't met that many peers where these things are concerned.

    Noticed you said 'he' - have you picked a name? Shared it? I'm obsessed with the idea of a boy but it's too early for us to know yet. Not too much longer! Congratulations again.

  3. I found your blog through 2momswithaplan, and wanted to say hi! I'm looking forward to catching up on your blog!